Different Types of Kinky Scenes

When describing the different types of BDSM scenes, keep in mind that these are labels, and everybody who uses them can use the term’s a little bit differently. Because they can mean something a little different to everyone, communicating with potential play partners about what they mean to them can be a smart plan. That said, there are four different types of kink scenes that people tend towards, and there are some general aspects to the terms that fit the philosophies of the vast majority of people using them.

Regardless of which type of kink scene you are entering, scene negotiation is an essential part of the process. Make sure you talk about boundaries, limits, triggers, safety, needs, wants, desires, and more. Whether you use the SSC, RACK, PRICK safety philosophies or one you have tailored for you, you can communicate these during scene negotiation. The four main types of BDSM scenes include playtime, roleplay, mind fucks, and consensual nonconsent.

Different Types of Kinky Scenes

Kink scenes can be many different things. When referring to what type of scene they are looking for, people often use categories to help speed their potential play partners' understanding of what they’re looking for up. Most people’s scenes are considered playtime.

Playtime Scenes

These scenes can take a few minutes to negotiate, though sometimes it takes a little bit longer. The scenes themselves can last for just a few minutes as well, or for a few hours. When setting up playtime, but there may be impact play, erotic touching, massaging, barehanded spanking, orgasms, double penetration, dildos, vibrators, remote control sex toys, or any number of other activities. Playtime, as a term, is used to describe any type of activity that is not solidly in other described categories. While most playtime is not elaborately planned, it can be intricately planned by a dominant alone or together with a partner in some cases. When people play, it is often based on a need, want, or desire that both people have. Whether this is to relieve tension, reconnect, establish intimacy, or any other number of descriptors, scenes are something that both people find appealing and/or pleasurable. In many cases, a scene will hit on one or more kinks specifically, whether sadism and masochism, bondage, orgasm control, gentle Domination, rough sex, dirty talk, or any number of others.

Mind Fucks

When negotiating a mind fuck, an entire scene, or just parts of it, get into the psychological space of the Dominant, submissive, or both. In some cases, the mind fuck is what makes the scene seem like it is more real. Many people in BDSM use mind fuckery to help their partner believe that they’ve ‘been kidnapped,’ as an example, when they know they actually haven’t been. In reality, the kidnapping is consensual and done by you, but there are things that people can do to build anticipation and add realism. This can be things like making a person believe that they will be spanked when the intention is not the case. These scenes can have many fantastic benefits and can be a fantastic way to establish dominance.

Roleplay

Many people are into roleplay, and many are not. For people who love roleplay, it is extremely popular for many reasons. Taking on a fun role that you find sexy, taboo, or intimate, can pay massive dividends. Whether considering doing a Teacher/student roleplay, a Pirate/kidnapped wench, or something a little more taboo, each of these roles can be made your own. There are thousands of roleplay options available, and many of them have power exchange elements. Whether you are looking for a primal experience, power exchange, nurturing scene, or any other type of roleplay, check it out with your potential play partners and gauge their interest. Roleplay can lead to intense laughs, orgasms, and connections.

Consensual Non-Consent

This is a controversial topic in the world of kink. That said, the term is most often used to express having an interest in roleplaying where at least one of the people involved is pretending to not consent. This type of scene should only be done with people you trust completely. In your scene negotiation, talk about boundaries, limits, triggers, and safe words. Having a safeword that ends the scene or advises caution is essential in all scenes and is perhaps even more important in this type of scene. CNC scenes are not ones that you should have with a new sex partner.

Scene negotiation is an essential part of the process. Determine whether other people will be involved with the scene, and what the safe words and signals are, as signals may be needed in case a person cannot speak at points the scene. Talk about what will be allowed in the scene, what is it okay, and stick to those general parameters. Scene negotiation also often involves a serious conversation about triggers and potential past triggers. Due to the nature of these types of scenes, talking about past abuse and problems is essential. If triggered, emotional and mental complications can arise.

In most cases, consensual nonconsent scenes involve some type of mind fuckery. Negotiating in more detail is essential and will not take away from the scene itself. The top/Dominant can add a few good mind fucks in, and the roleplay will feel real enough.